Emotional Intelligence

http://www.queendom.com/tests/access_page/index.htm?idRegTest=1121

The day of the modern internet has produced so much information that anything I want to learn I can google. When my old phone didn't work I googled the symptoms and found a list of people's complaints with the same problem, then I'd find the solution. In my job when I am researching people it's easy to find free websites that give whole family information. Even when I'm dating I find it helpful to input my date's name into google, and I have found out important, pertinent information that helps me to know who this person might be. Don't type my name, you have to know my alias to get any information on me.

So because of a friend's comment I have been googling EMOTIONAL INSECURITY, which lead me to emotional intelligence which took me to the aforementioned emotional IQ test. The lowest score being 55, I scored 33. And I thought I was doing so well. I thought I was answering all the questions intelligently. I thought I could identify emotions. I'm an emotional idiot.

It's okay. I have hope today. When I typed in how to improve emotional intelligence I got all the answers that I hear in Al-Anon.

* Become emotionally literate.
* Label your feelings, rather than labeling people or situations.
* Distinguish between thoughts and feelings.
* Take more responsibility for your feelings.
* Use your feelings to help them make decisions.
* Show respect for other people’s feelings.
* Feel energized, not angry.
* Validate other people’s feelings.
* Practice getting a positive value from emotions.
* Don’t advise, command, control, criticize, judge or lecture to others.
* Avoid people who invalidate you

I know that I am exactly where I am suppose to be today. I wonder if I take the test again next year if my score will improve?

Today I am grateful:

That I woke up this morning intending to be happy and joyous and I was.

That my life is full of other's thinking about how they can help others.

That when a sister became obstinent about having to bury her brother I could tell her she may be right and I encouraged her to learn everything she could about the situation so she could make an informed decision. It wasn't my job to convince her to do the right thing (according to the laws in the state of Arizona).

That people are, for the most part, helpful and loving and want to be part of the solution. Sometimes they just need to be shown how.